excuses, excuses

the biggest excuse i hear from people is "i'm like this because my parents....".  there's a point in our lives where we have to stop making excuses and blaming other people for the reason why things are the way they are.  no parent is perfect - that's for sure.  but, if you're an adult, and are still blaming your shortcomings on "the way you were raised", it's time shut up and change it.

you get to a certain age where you finally understand the difference between right and wrong.  quit blaming your past - you can't change it. if you're unhappy with something, change it.  yes, it will take work - but the more you make excuses, the longer it will stay the same.

i've been on this trip lately about people making excuses.  it's f***ing annoying.  i'm in the business of teaching people how to defend themselves.  i had a parent last night make a million excuses of why she didn't have to work hard.  i asked her, "what happens if you're walking down the street, and someone tries to hurt your son?"  she said, "that won't happen, he's too fast."  really?  so, instead of suckin' it up and learning how to defend her family, she is banking on her son's speed to run from the situation.  and, if the attacker comes from behind?  then what?  and then they wonder why their kids make excuses...

i grew up with a dad who had a short temper.  so, growing up, i had one too.  i'd get pist at every little thing.  then, one day, i grew up and realized it was a trait that i no longer wanted to have.  so, i worked very hard at making it go away.  was it hard?  yes.  was it work?  yes.  do i still struggle?  yes.  but, i recognized the problem and changed it.  i could've just sat around and blamed my dad for it - or blamed the person who pissed me off to begin with...  but, i didn't.  it was a PERSONAL problem, so the change started at the root - ME.

quit your bit**in and your whining and do the freakin' work.